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anoldladyonfire:

Please do not click “More” if you do not want to see Hugo Schwyzer’s reaction to Joe Paterno’s death.

And … you don’t. Not really.

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i mean—i wonder if there’s “shades of gray” on how much he loved those kids that he never protected?

why can we always find “shades of gray” when it comes to those in power? but the rest of us are just sad children who complicated an otherwise brilliant man’s career?

[Further And Really Serious Trigger Warning (for child rape, pedophilia & associated apologism)]

I just saw that in November he wrote an article for the Good Men Project headlined “To prevent future Penn States, we need to celebrate the good in male sexuality,” in which almost every single line is vile. I swear I keep thinking it can’t get any worse and it just does.

But we also need to remember that while pedophilia and related disorders are genuine mental illnesses, they are aided and abetted by sexual shame. In a world where the hefty majority of rapists and abusers are men, that means that helping men–all men–overcome that shame is a critical part of the “solution.”

(It’s my understanding that just the opposite is true, and that if you give a pedophile a forum in which to talk with other pedophiles, they will help each other rationalize increasingly overt and harmful abuses against children. Rapists of all types are pretty famous for egging each other on, right?)

That’s his solution, though? That’s where he wants to create lasting change so that no one ever covers up the rape of a child again, so that not one single child is ever sexually abused again? Focusing on the positive aspects of adult male sexuality? What about the shame that Sandusky’s victims felt? What about the shame his victim felt when Joe Paterno saw a rape happening and did nothing? How can freeing the Sanduskys of the world from shame end rape? How can anyone read this and nod along?

I swear I am thinking of the access Hugo has had and still has to young people and I am just sort of seriously freaking out.

Getting sexually assaulted as a minor is totally conducive to developing positive adult male sexuality. And telling abuse survivors to aid in creating positive understandings of adult male sexuality is totally effective. Yes. That is how that works.

(via fucknohugoschwyzer)