These things are all true but I still don’t see what they have to do with the fact that willfully associating yourself with poverty signifiers as a joke (or hell, even as some kind of Political Statement) is something that people who are either culturally slumming or new to poverty do without thinking about actually, generationally poor people who have no choice but to be associated with those things by people who look down on them. And that’s pretty gross and people who do that should be made fun of or at least get eyerolled at sometmies. I’m pretty stupid, though.
I do want to add though, real quick, that I am troubled when people who do not come from poor places are the ones naming dirtiness as a poverty signifier, like, I am filthy because that’s how you perform poor, which is just regular old weird stereotypes. Even though I am really outspoken about the connections between filth and poverty I am way offended when people are just like poor people are dirty, partially because I have not healed from those wounds, but especially when what they are doing is I don’t wash my dishes, therefore I am not middle class.
The notable recent example I can offer is a person who grew up middle class and is living in a house in a mostly-poor neighborhood and left garbage and beer cans and shit all over their yard, and then when their neighbors complained they said they were “being classist.” Because like everybody knows that poor people throw their garbage all over the neighborhood. (This intersects with Steph’s recent arguments with a bunch of young people who said being sober is “classist” because poor people “have to drink alcohol” because they have nothing else in their lives.)
And the point here, in all of this, is twofold: when you jump into this “lifestyle” from a position of safety and erase the ways that some people have been truly wounded by it (mainly me lol), and the fact that some people are made vulnerable and harmed because of these conditions, and those some people are largely not squalorbloggers. I am only slowly learning that being messy or not taking out the trash will not lead to my eviction or getting visited by the social worker who might take me out of my home anymore. I don’t have to fear that anymore. But I still am afraid, and ashamed.
Most of my favorite Rihanna singles are Loud and Rated R era songs, “S&M,” “Rude Boy,” “Only Girl,” I assign them a certain intoxicating quality, and I realize mostly because I was doing so much drinking back then: good drinking, troublemaking drinking, feelings drinking, going out dancing, really kind of exorcism drinking. My other favorite Rihanna single—the quick ascension of “Stay” notwithstanding—is “We Found Love,” which brings me to a similarly drunk, hypnotic place, but that was more about that trauma-to-detox autumn I spent up all night watching music videos, when this was every other video, and it’s so long, and I marathonned Skins, and that video is so much like Skins anyway. My favorite Rihanna songs are kind of my escapisms, songs for drowning, but sometimes (much as they are to her, I think) baptismal.
A young woman with magenta-streaked hair stands in her bathroom, speaking to a webcam. In a hushed tone, she chews over a thorny problem of young adulthood: how to apply full evening makeup when you’re already inebriated from drinking all day?
look at this guy who has the same name as me, I’m so proud :)
remember when Olivia gave Elliot the Fetal Alcohol Syndrome talk as a polite way to tell him that his children were ugly and fucked up
Are the weird restrictive alcohol laws in PA historically because of anti-German sentiments? That’s how it was in a lot of cities around the turn of the century, esp when it comes to protestant sabbatarianism restricting the alcohol consumption on Sundays for European immigrants who worked the other six days. Also, I think “having literally any laws” is “having a lot of laws” because I kind of don’t have a state government where I live, so keep that in mind when I say “weird restrictive.” Alice once told me there was an hour when she couldn’t buy beer and I was like, how does that work.
Sometimes you go through old sketch books of yours (i use to draw? i don’t even know how now. Also seems like a lifetime ago) and its just full of practice copies of expressionist stuff and nudes that are vaguely/explicitly RGR?
And drawings of Bob and Doug Mckenzie.
Hey Alyx, you are an international celebrity of bros.
I would have absolutely zero ethical reservations about selling “this is what a feminist drinks like” to Molson Coors Brewing Company, in case you are wondering.
maybe the best of the “bro you got a problem” concern in “Man Overboard” is when Mark implies that “shots without a chaser” is a sign of alcoholism